I used to be that person who said YES to everything.
Every meeting. Every outing. Every project. Every Event. Every vacation.
I used to think it was a badge of honor to pack my schedule up to the max every single day. Our society does put ‘being busy’ on a pedestal and this is something we need to stop doing. My calendar literally had no white space. My idea of a ‘quiet month’ was having ONE day that I had nothing planned.
One day I woke up and decided this has got to change. I decided to only say YES to what I really want in life. If it’s not in alignment with my 5-year vision, it’s a NO. If it’s not with high vibing people, it’s a NO. If it’s not a 100% yes, it’s a NO.
Today I’m talking about how to say no without burning any bridges and create time for your very own self. Because the easiest way to create time for yourself is to have space in your calendar.
1. Do not say yes right away
I bet this is what usually happens..
“Hey Tiffany! There’s a there’s an event this coming Sunday and we really want 3 more people to help out. Are you available?”
“Hey hey! This Sunday? SURE! I didn’t have anything planned.”
Instead, try this..
“Hey hey! Let me check with my planner, let me get back to you on that.”
Make it a habit to say let me get back to you, even if you know the answer is going to be yes. This trains your brain to pause for a moment and assess if this commitment is something you really want to do, or something you’re doing because someone asked you to do it. Create a habit of only allowing things you truly love to send your time on.
2. Figure out what you really want to spend time on
What are your core values? What really matters to you? What are your goals and what do you need to do to get there? Are your commitments going to help you achieve your bigger goals or is it going to slow you down?
Here’s 3 questions that I ask myself every time someone asks me to commit to anything:
Is it aligned with my 5 year vision?
Is it with a group of people I absolutely love spending time with?
Am I feeling an 100% YES?
3. Uncommit yourself
I know it’s hard to clear out commitments you have already made. I’ll walk you through it. Look at your calendar & take a red pen. Draw a heart on the commitments you would move heaven and earth to make.
Draw a circle on all the commitments you have to make because we have to be adults. I’m talking the rent/mortgage, bills, and work. You know, the whole #adulting game.
Everything else? Un-commit yourself, and let’s take it off your planner.
Is it a one-time commitment that you would just rather not be there? Cancel!
Is it a weekly or monthly commitment? Say you can commit for the next X times, and have someone else take over.
Now that we got your calendar cleared out… THIS is the fun part and the most IMPORTANT part.
Don’t let anything on your calendar that’s not a 100% YES. If you’re feeling a 80% yes, don’t commit your time.
There are only 24 hours in a day. We all have the same amount of hours, and what we choose to do with it will separate us from the herd. You must create space for the things that matter in life, including building your turnkey online empire. Don’t know where to start? Shoot me a message.
Your future self awaits you.